In light of the recent March for Life, along with this current issue of the Obama Administration’s “contraceptive mandate,” I have found myself angstily ruminating on the topic of abortion. It seems the older I get, the more horrifying a concept it becomes. I’ve always objected to it; but now more than ever, I am shocked, disgusted, saddened, frustrated, and bewildered by those who peddle this barbaric practice under the guise of “a woman’s choice” or “safe, legal medical treatment” or “reproductive health,” or any other gross euphemism they come up with.
So what I’m about to say is probably going to, at first, come off as a bit anti-man. But please understand that I am entirely pro-man – I love men and respect them for what they necessarily are: responsible, mature, loving, loyal, hard-working, strong, and dignified. what I do not love, however, are fully grown males who refuse to become men. Such males mostly shirk responsibility, maturity, commitment, integrity, and sacrificial concern. They are more prevalent in our society than ever – which, I believe, has lead to its undoing. So, that said, I continue.
The reason I am pointing out, or rather taking issue with, the male role in the abortion debate right now is because it just seems odd whenever the issue of abortion comes up on forums, blogs, talk shows – what have you – how males are every bit, if not more, present in the issue than females (on the pro-choice side), commenting away. Which seems strange when you really think about it. I mean, wouldn’t you assume that on such a “women’s issue,” males would feel adequate to simply sit back and let females have the discussion, seeing as how they are the ones, at the end of the day, feeling the direct impact and consequences? But no, pro-choice males swoop in from every direction, making their views abundantly clear… but always on behalf of women. I think this should send up red flags for pro-choice females – the notion that males, who normally do not present much in the way of commitment in other spheres of their lives, are so outwardly committed to the cause of abortion.
One of the things, amidst this whole abortion debate, that stirs the most indignation in me is when I hear a pro-choice male “defend” a woman’s “right” to kill her child. What I’ve noticed is how these males routinely spout off in the most sanctimonious way, as though they somehow care for the rights or dignity of women. “You just want women barefoot and pregnant,” or “you have no compassion for the poor woman’s situation,” or “you have no right to judge till you’ve been in her shoes!” All these tired retorts are, of course, a billowing, rancid smokescreen designed to give cover to the opportunistic, pro-choice male.
You see, females have suffered for abortion – they have borne its impact in their daily lives, while males have sat by and simply reaped the benefits of prolonged boyhood and sex without consequences (those males who haven’t been aborted, that is). Males like to use female weakness and dependance – the very qualities that feminists decry – to bolster their arguments when “sympathizing” with the poor, incapable, stupid, and hopeless pregnant females. It seems that in the view of males, females do not have the capacity to avoid casually sleeping around and then terminating the resulting pregnancies. Females do not have the capacity to carry a pregnancy to term and then either raise the child responsibly or give the child up for adoption. Interestingly, one of these two outcomes is well within the potential of every female of reproductive age – yet the pro-choice male would have us assume otherwise. Automatically. Because he’s “on the side of women.”
It seems to me that the pro-choice male does not think much of females. He uses them for his pleasure, and then paints them as inept. This same male then argues that he is merely supporting women’s autonomy and sexual liberation. The pattern here seems to indicate to me a very deep misogyny paired with out-and-out opportunism. Use someone and convince them you’re doing them a favor. Meanwhile the pro-life man is characterized as wanting to repress women. It is one of the more sickening ironies; the man who doesn’t objectify women and then support the killing of their offspring is the one holding women down.
At the end of the day I believe women must answer for their use of abortion and be held accountable for it, but I also believe men bare some responsibility in a very profound sense. I actually see it in terms of the fall of humanity. Eve was the first to disobey God, and in her momentary weakness, believe the serpent’s lies and eat of the forbidden fruit. But, it was when Adam followed suit that the world fell into sin and death (Rom 5:12).